nakedbearladies asked: i've also had dudes irl make comments about my flickr and tumblr in the same vaguely slut-shaming way- as if the "performative" aspect of my blogging (that of my thoughts and photos being somewhere in-between private & public) is both arousing as well as "bad". ultimately i feel like it's treated very voyeuristically? i've turned off anonymous comments for this exact reason, i feel like i get a lot of anon messages intended to "put me in my place" for acting confident and having a face onlin

This is really interesting, the idea of “having a face” online. I feel like a lot of those responses are very PSYCH101, you know? Men want to fuck you and desire you and hate you - how fucking boring. Or classic anxiety around women controlling their own spaces and the need to interrupt that, insert/assert themselves into that space. Fundamentally the assumption that it’s all for them. Which again, is so fucking boring.

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6. pasithee said: i was thinking about this the other day and you really hit the nail on the head.
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10. nakedbearladies said: one of my guy friends made a comment about my “army of radical feminist followers” on tumblr in kind of an eye-rolly way and it felt kind of good to see that he felt uncomfortable and unwelcome in a safe place that i have carved out for myself.
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