February 2012
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My boss just saw me walking down the hall carrying my lunch, a piece of vegetable lasagna. She said “that’s a slab and a half” and I replied something like “yeah, it’s spinach lasagna”. To which she replied “lunch AND dinner, I hope, judging by the size of it”.
Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuck off.
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Student: So I’m enrolling in the course on violence, imaginaries and symbolic power?
Me: Yes?
Student: I noticed that last year, Kiran was teaching the course, but this year it says someone called Dinesh is teaching it.
Me: That’s correct. Kiran is taking up a research position this semester and won’t be teaching.
Student: I tried looking for background information but...
“…the archiving impulse, the desire to collect objects not just to protect...”
– ann cvetkovich, an archive of feelings: trauma, sexuality, and lesbian public cultures
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“No.”
– Actress Julianne Moore, when asked if she gained a newfound respect for Sarah Palin after delving deeper into Palin’s life to portray her in the upcoming film “Game Change.”
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What does a queer woman with no hair wear to a traditional Lebanese wedding? This is actually making me legitimately anxious. There will be big big hair, big big make up, and I feel like I’m going to look like the bride’s unfortunate bald best friend who wears jeans. The guest list tops something in the range of 700 people. No longer a wedding, but a stadium spectacle. The bride...
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nakedbearladies asked: i've also had dudes irl make comments about my flickr and tumblr in the same vaguely slut-shaming way- as if the "performative" aspect of my blogging (that of my thoughts and photos being somewhere in-between private & public) is both arousing as well as "bad". ultimately i feel like it's treated very voyeuristically? i've turned off anonymous comments for...
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A friend sent me the correspondence she had with a man after calling him out - he responded with a somewhat bitter message along the lines of “I guess we can’t all keep up with you intellectually. You humiliated me and in the future you need to be more careful with other people’s feelings”. I responded “I find it very interesting that he feels the need to refer to...
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Anti Valentine etc: yesterday after work swimming at Bronte, I was hanging off James’ neck and did a series of huge farts. The bubbles came up between our legs and burst right in front of his face. I shouted “Happy Valentines Day baby!”.
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The house is sold, James has moved into my tiny apartment. We’ve sold or given away everything except the bare bones, and now we’re in a holding period, waiting to hear about Canada. There’s a job in Toronto for James - they’ve indicated they want him, and asked if he could hypothetically start in 6 weeks. Now they’re “putting together a case to hire”, and...
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Sometimes, intimacy is talking in bed about strategies for successful cropdusting of despised coworkers.
“Good cropdusting is all about hiding in plain sight.”
“Very true.”
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milkeemountainmama: i been wondering this forever.
flint has just as many beat up run down decaying houses that detroit does. in fact, flint has had many of the same proposals surrounding it to “deal” with blight that detroit has—downsizing, 1$ houses, etc.
and yet—when it comes to the whole “zomg i luuuurv abandoned houses!”—the narrative focuses almost exclusively on Detroit. the “once great...
“Anyways I keep thinking I’m over wanting that approval and sometimes I feel hopeful but it’s late and attachment is so complicated. This is also the story of my privilege, Adrienne Rich talks about the same thing when she says, “we have liked to think of ourselves as special, and we have known that men would tolerate, even romanticize us as special”. There may be ways in, there are...
January 2012
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Me: Did you see my tumblr? I do believe I have seen you sway your hips on more than one occasion, my darling. Your lovely, lovely hips
James: Also, can I just say, if you break up with me in a restaurant, or any public place full stop, expect a fucking spectacle that will defy this person’s idea of acceptable masculine behaviour forever.
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No.
“The realization of one’s gender helps us to fit into society better. A man, for example, would hardly be seen walking into a restaurant wearing a dress. He would carry himself in a certain manner, speak in a particular way and certainly would not cover his face running from the restaurant crying if his girlfriend dumped him. Acknowledging our gender helps to create our social...
Blahblah Gillard: “There is a time and place for protest. And Black people need to understand that White People set that time and place.”
- a Gillard translation by Kristian on the Tent Embassy protest.
cyberslut rules of engagement/manifesto →
hysteriarama:
bagofshit:
pussy-strut:
sl33pcr33p:
- never compromise yr feelings to make people comfortable - cry in public - nothing sober is real anyway - violence is the new “being the bigger person” - mellow is not an interesting state of being - you take up for every girl…
dress like a witch
if you bleed through let it show and tell everyone it’s menstrual chic
refuse to...
cyberslut rules of engagement/manifesto
bagofshit:
pussy-strut:
sl33pcr33p:
- never compromise yr feelings to make people comfortable - cry in public - nothing sober is real anyway - violence is the new “being the bigger person” - mellow is not an interesting state of being - you take up for every girl everywhere - suffer no fools - eat cake [eat everything] - if yr sleeping with yr cat it is not sleeping alone - if yr...
Sometimes wonder whether the sound of me spanking men makes an uncomfortable soundtrack for the downstairs couple who seem like they’re on the edge of a break up.
enrollment week continues
Showing students how to adjust their enrollment details so they get a government concession card even though they’re not technically entitled to one. Defrauding the government, one day at a time.
Also encouraging students to take obscure subjects like Pali, the canonical language of Tibetan Buddhism.
Thinking a lot about Kara saying “that is the nicest he could be and he was still an asshole”. This is really important.
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Every time an enrolling student tells me they’re only taking gender studies “as an easy filler” until they can transfer to business and marketing, a tiny kitten is run over by a truck and then eaten by wild dogs.
An open letter to my coworker who wears too much old lady perfume- “Ooooo, your skin’s looking a little irritated, you should do something about that.” It’s cool lady, my face is actually just having a massive allergic reaction to the mixture of fucking turpentine and cheap potpourri you douse all over yourself. Come a little closer and say that to me, it’s not like...
Watch some show about a girl who’s afraid to tell her friends that she sweats a lot. She finally tells them and they accept her. You cry. This has been a PMS post.
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Remember the 93 year old PhD applicant ? He was here again today, he just stopped by my office to give me his research proposal and seek suggestions for potential academic supervisors. He was dressed in a three-piece suit with his hair slicked back. He let me know that amongst the papers he had given me was a letter from his doctor stating that he “was in excellent health”. At the...
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Doing 100kg weights at the gym like it ain’t no thing makes me feel like a fucking feminist badass.
Thinking about this really amazing post. I am interested in how living in places of extreme weather affects your psyche, how much it colours the rest of your life. When I think about the first 15 years of my life, the overwhelming memory is heat. If it were an embroidery, heat is the colour of the thread. Heat as one of the lenses of my life. And I’m interested in how that gets in you - heat...
Referencing The Male Gaze in messages on okc as a litmus test.
“.. They also frequently ask me if I think I will see him again. Carl faced his...”
– Ann Druyan on Carl Sagan’s Death
